While in secondary school, I was a very dedicated FCS member, though I was stubborn but relatively innocent. I still saw the need to attend the fellowship against all odds.

One day I asked a friend why he stopped coming to the fellowship and I was surprised at the answer he gave me. He said there is a particular lady who leads songs during the fellowship and she always visits a particular guy at odd hours. Which according to him, they do have sexual activities. He went further to say he knew 3 more sexual partners of the worship leader.

So because he is aware of her sexual activities, he can't come to the fellowship to behold her lead songs, cry on stage, etc. According to him, she is a hypocrite.

Though I share in his sentiment as a human and particularly a guy. I am not in support of such an act, but then I never supported the idea of exiting the fellowship just because of her likes.

A lot of times we get involved in organizations, associations, that harbor lots of people; the good, bad & ugly. Once you're able to know the ills of a few of them probably on a personal ground, we tend to just exit the association hoping for a greener pasture.

Baba Paul Gindiri in a sermon once said, If we keep exiting & leaving the church because of the ills & bad of other people, who are we leaving the church to? Who will make it better?

Stand alongside other “good people” to change the narratives or your good deeds will either change the person or force the person out of the church.

I also want to say, if we leave and exit it for the “Bad people” how them will make it better?. To me it's like leaving a relationship I have built over the years just because my lover now gives attention to a new guy. More like, leaving your house just because a stranger invaded it with abnormalities.

Do you wonder why politics is seen as stuff for corrupt and bad people? It's because most of the good people refuse to get involved in it. The few who were involved, like my friend; left it just because they know the activities of some bad politician.

Months ago, a naive friend asked if it's true, that some contestants give sex in exchange for a crown and I said yes! But you can change the narratives. Go, do your best, and see yourself emerging as a winner. Don't just give up your passion just because a few people have bastardized it or made merchandise of It.

So, how my friend left the fellowship just because of a sister who he considered a hypocrite hoping to go to another fellowship. Funny enough, in virtually all gatherings you will find such people since only God sees the heart.

Imagine if every good person decides to exit the church just because of some bad person.
Imagine if every person decides to exit an association just because the president & treasurer colluded and siphoned money. What then happens?

A few months ago I was privileged to chair the just concluded Taraba Entertainment Award(TEA2020) a lot of people had a prior belief that it is not credible, and grossly biased.

Knowing that, I told myself, I want to change the narrative. Several times I approach people and they will be like “Make una do una thing” and I kept telling them “It's our thing not mine”.

Though we had lapses, the last TEA2020 made several people believe in it. What if I had just said no, I can't be part of such movements.

You have what it takes to make the change, you have what it takes to spark up positive change. Don't relent or give up just because there are few bad people. If truly you're a positive force, stay around and fight for a cause.

Musa Affos (Rhapsodi) Is A Blogger & Social Media Activist.

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