A month ago was my birthday and I had a prior plan to celebrate it with the orphans. I invited a few friends to help me go there.

A day before the celebration, I called my best female friend and informed her that I needed her to be among those escorting me and she asked, “what if she doesn't make it”, I laughed and told her that she dares not. Jokingly she said her guy wanted to see her at the same time and I replied “tell him it's me, I have been your friend since 2012”. I knew too well she was joking because she has never disappointed me.

My birthday came and while at the orphanage I took notice that this same lady didn't come & my friend’s sister too. I wasn't too happy about that but it was my day and I can't be sad not with the friends around and about 33 unread messages on my device. Lol. But I had already planned what to say to her.

Done from the orphanage and dew friends were still around, I had it mine to firstly go home and sleep then go out but all of a sudden my girlfriend said she wants to take me out, I was okay with it but I suggested since my friends are all around let's all go out with them and once they left you can take me out. We will have more time together.

All of a sudden her countenance changed and she kept insisting, I was surprised that all of a sudden she doesn't seem to be the understanding girlfriend I have always had. I reached out to my best friend and told him what's happening and he should help me talk to her but to my dismay he was backing her. I got confused! This is not how this guy behaves.

How come everyone doesn't seem to understand me. I had the privilege of having some friends around, how can I tell them to just go home because my girlfriend wants to take me out. And they should come back later. To me it doesn't make sense beside they came to celebrate me. My girlfriend will always have me to herself.

Anyone who knows me too well will attest to the fact that I argue a lot and for

a longtime when I want to. So we argued for one hour and I succumbed to her (the power of a woman) lol. Meanwhile I was still unhappy for the fact that my female best friend didn't come.

We took a bike and went home to change my dress but at the end, I didn't. I was angry because I was following her against my wish. While on the bike she tries to make jokes but I kept a very serious face. The bikeman kept moving till he reached the outskirts of Jalingo and we stopped.

When we dropped in I couldn't see any eatery around or any amusement park. It was a pseudo forest and she took the lead and I followed her…..All of a sudden we stopped and I couldn't believe what I saw: my best friend, my brother & my female best friend; that very lady I didn't see at the orphanage. I was so surprised I ran and hugged her, my female best friend and ummm I remembered that my girlfriend was by the side. Lol

They actually organised a surprise picnic for me. I looked around and there was a lot of food, chickens and other special delicacies, music and lots of drinks too. In truth, we had fun….

I got to realise that my best female friend wasn't at the orphanage because she was busy cooking and organising the picnic alongside my best friend's sister too. Because I wasn't aware of that fact, I was angry because she wasn't there.

My best friend that was supporting my girlfriend earlier at the orphanage was because they actually made the plans together with my girlfriend, my best female & make friend, his sister & my brother but I was ignorant of the fact.

Haven used the above story I will want to buttress my points in two ways:

Firstly, most times we conclude on issues and things even without having a true knowledge of it, just like I did. While I thought my female friend deliberately didn't come to the orphanage, meanwhile she didn't come because she was busy cooking for me & had to sacrifice her presence so I could feel special. Things are not always the way they seem to be.

Lastly, I could liken my situation to a time when we ask from God. I want to liken my female best friend to God (for the sake of this article). Sometimes we ask for things from God and we don't get to have them as we expect and we feel God has forsaken us even when he is aware of our situations and plight.

Like myself, I argued for up to one hour thereby making the special package for me to delay. Some of us because we don't get what we asked for when we want it, we decide to argue by trying other alternatives and thereby delaying the surprise package God has for us.

Sometimes we feel God doesn't understand, same way I felt about my girlfriend and best friend too but the Truth is God has a better plan for us but out of ignorance we decide to try other alternatives thereby prolonging our surprise package.

Here is a clarion call for us all; Calm down, relax and follow the leading soonest you will arrive and there's going to be a surprise picnic for you.

Musa Affos (Rhapsodi) Is a Blogger & Social Medal Activist.

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