Nalongo Muzaala Bana (the twin mother that produces quadruples) is what
Mariam Nabatanzi Babirye goes by where she resides in Kabimbiri village,
Mukono District.
At 37, Nabatanzi has 38 children whom she has delivered from home except
the last born who is four months old. She was delivered by caesarean
section. Among her children are six sets of twins, four sets of
triplets, three sets of quadruples and single births. Ten of these are
girls and the rest are boys. The oldest is 23 years old while the
youngest four months.
Eager to tell her story, she takes a minute before getting into it,
tilting her head lost in thoughts. She was married off at 12 years of
age after surviving death; allegedly at her stepmother’s hands who
apparently pounded glass and mixed it in the food she gave Nabatanzi and
her four siblings. Fortunately, she was away unlike her siblings who
ate the food and died on the spot.
Married off
Nabatanzi breaks down when she recalls what she went through upon
getting married. In 1993, she was married off to a 40-year-old man.
“I did not know I was being married off. People came home and brought
things for my father. When time came for them to leave, I thought I was
escorting my aunt but when I got there, she gave me away to the man.”
Being only a young girl, she found marriage a difficult task in the new
family. “My husband was polygamous with many children from his past
relationships who I had to take care of because their mothers were
scattered all over. He was also violent and would beat me at any
opportunity he got even when I suggested an idea that he didn’t like,”
she recounts.
Starting a family
Her father-in-law gave them a piece of land to start their family, a family for which she planned to have six children.
In 1994, when she was 13, Nabatanzi gave birth to twins. Two years
later, she gave birth to triplets and a year and seven months after that
added a set of quadruplets. This, she says was nothing strange to her
because she had seen it before in her lineage. “My father gave birth to
45 children with different women and these all came in quintuplets,
quadruplets, twins and triplets,” she says.
Indeed, Dr Charles Kiggundu, a gynecologist at Mulago Hospital and
President of gynaecologists and obstetricians, says it is very possible
for Nabatanzi to have taken after her father. “Her case is genetic
predisposition to hyper-ovulate (releasing multiple eggs in one cycle),
which significantly increases the chance of having multiples; it is
always genetic,” he explains.
By her sixth delivery, Nabatanzi had had 18 children and wanted to stop, so, she went to see a doctor at Namaliili Hospital.
The problem
The doctor told Nabatanzi that she could not be stopped then because she
had a high ovary count which would eventually kill her if she stopped.
“Having these unfertilised eggs accumulate poses not only a threat to
destroy the reproductive system but can also make the woman lose their
lives,” Dr Ahmed Kikomeko from Kawempe General Hospital explains.
“I was advised to keep producing since putting this on hold would mean
death. I tried using the Intrauterine Device (IUD) but I got sick and
vomited a lot, to the point of near death. I went into a coma for a
month,” she explains.
At the age of 23 with now 25 children, she went back to hospital to try
and stop. “I was checked in at Mulago Hospital and advised to continue
producing since the ovary count was still high.”
No way to stop?
Kiggundu explains that women’s ovaries are at times suppressed and
stopped from ovulating. “The suppressed eggs later pile up and are
released at once and here, the higher the chances of fertilizing many
eggs, the higher the chances of all of them dying, Nabatanzi was lucky,”
he says. “She must have been super ovulating, releasing many eggs in a
cycle.” He adds that Nabatanzi could have been helped if she had really
wanted to stop producing, but some people are not well informed.
At the birth of her four-month-old child who was delivered by C-section
in December last year, she says; “I asked the doctor to stop me from
more births and he said he had ‘cut my uterus from inside’. This was my
only Cesarean delivery because I was still weak from the sickness I
suffered when I tried to use an IUD.”
Kiggundu says this was most likely tubal ligation. “With tubal ligation,
the tubes are blocked, a permanent method of contraception in women,
but they would continue having their menses,” explains the gynecologist.
Hurdles in marriage
Nabatanzi’s 25 years in marriage have been characterised by humiliation
and torture. “I have been tortured countless times by my husband; he
beats to the pulp when I try to reason with him over any issue,
especially when he gets home drank. He does not provide for basic needs
and welfare of the family; the children hardly know who he is since he
is an absent father who gives his children names over the phone and not
physically,” she says.
Charles Musisi, 23, her eldest son says their father disappeared and they have grown up only with their mother’s love.
“I can comfortably tell you that our siblings do not know what father
looks like. I last saw him when I was 13 years old and only briefly in
the night because he rushed off again,” he says, adding that they do not
know the happiness of living with a father and they only rely on their
mother as their both mother and father.
Nabatanzi says her husband spends close to a year without coming home
and when he does, he just sneaks into the house late in the night and
leaves very early in the morning.
“I carry these humiliations because my aunt advised me to always endure
in marriage and have my children as the center of focus. She advised me
not to produce children from different men.”
The education challenge
Nabatanzi is optimistic about seeing her children through school,
something her father could not do for her. Despite being a Primary Two
dropout, she has managed to educate her children.
One of her first born twins has a certificate in nursing and the other in building although they have not found jobs yet.
Two of her other children are in Senior Six, three in Senior Five, Four
in Primary Seven, and four in Senior One. The rest are between baby
class and Primary Six.
“I am hopeful that my children will go to school because they all have
big ambitions of being doctors, teachers and lawyers; I want them to
realise these dreams, something I was not able to do.”
Nabatanzi does not have a garden or land to farm, so she has to buy food to feed her children and this is her biggest expense.
“Everything is solely from my pocket; I buy 10kg of maize flour a day,
four kilogrammes of sugar a day and three bars of soap. I need to have
Shs100, 000 at the least on a daily basis to have the family catered
for. God has been good to me for they have never gone a day without a
meal,” she says. Nabatanzi is in the process of gathering money to
connect piped water she can sell since water is a big problem in the
area, with a jerry can costing Shs800.
David Kazimba, who fetches her water, says he gets her 15 jerry cans of
water a day. “She is a social person I have known for the last eight
years. She is a hardworking and caring woman. At times, people mock her
because of her many children but she just ignores them,” he says.
To meet her expenses, Nabatanzi administers local herbs for various
illnesses – which she says she has done since she was a young girl- and
doing casual work such as plaiting hair, decorating at events, and
styling brides.
“I do not despise any job as long as it brings in some money. Feeling
sorry for myself is something I dropped because I know these children
are a gift from God that I have to treasure, so I try my level best to
fend for them.”
The main worry
Nabatanzi’s five-year-old son who was diagnosed with a heart problem
early this year worries her as she has to spend Shs120, 000 a week to
buy him medicine. “In January, the doctors at Mulago Hospital advised me
to raise Shs35m in nine months to have him taken to India for an
operation. Since I do not have this money yet, I buy him medicine to
help him cope in the meantime,” she says.
Nabatanzi finds solace in her children as the family she never had while
growing up. “I wish I could get a helping hand to help me with my
children’s schooling, which is my major concern. I stopped looking to my
husband for anything. I’m only focusing on raising my children and I am
determined to do,” she explains.
Home care
The older children help with their siblings and the general home
administration. “I enjoy taking care of my children myself though. My
children are my joy and I pride caring for them. I cook, wash and bathe
them with ease. Children grow better under a mother’s love and care,”
she says.
Nabatanzi says she delivers her children naturally and she has always
felt fine after each delivery until her recent C-section birth after
which she started to develop backache after doing some home chores.
“My daughter who studied nursing used to take care of me during
pregnancy. Eventually, I learnt how to do this, so I have not had any
difficulties or complications with my pregnancies,” she explains.

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