CONVERSATIONS YOU
SHOULD NEVER HAVE ON A
FIRST DATE
If You've Been Single For A While, You're
Probably Used To The First Date Dance By
Now: He Asks Where You're From Originally,
You Ask About His Job. He Asks If You Prefer
Red Or White Wine, You Ask About His
Hobbies. It Usually Feels Like The Same Ol'
Conversation Just With A Different Person,
Unless You Stumble Across A Truly Magical
(And Rare!) Amazing Date.
It Gets Really Old, We Know. And It Can Be
Tempting To Rock The Boat And Bring Up
Some Interesting Conversation Starters To Get
The Banter Flowing.
But While You're Doing The Get-To-Know One
Another Tango, It's Important To Not Step On
One Another's Toes- Or The Possibility Of A
Second Date Or Relationship- By Bringing Up
Any Of The Following Conversations On A First
Date:
1¤ TALKING ABOUT MONEY:
Depending On How Old You Are, Finding A
Partner With A Steady Financial Future Might
Be At The Top Of Your List. But If We're
Honest, Nothing Takes The Fun, Energy Or
Romance Out Of A Good Date Like Dropping
The 'How Much Do You Make In A Year?' Or
'Do You Eventually Want To Buy A Home Of
Your Own?' Question Prematurely. And Excuse
Us, But It Might Come Across As A Little Gold-
Digger Instead Of Potential Girlfriend
Material. While You Might Be Curious To See
Just How Much Student Debt He's In Or What
You Might Be Getting Yourself Into, Keep The
Topic Of Money Off The Table Until You've Had
A Chance To See If You Want A Second Date.
Plus- You're Just Fine Without Him, You Don't
Need His Pay check To Have A Good Time, Do
You?
WHEN TO TALK ABOUT IT: After You Are
Officially Dating.
2¤ TALKING ABOUT EXES:
This One Feels Like A No-Brainer, Right? But
Get A Glass Of Gin Or Red Wine In You And
Suddenly, You Have The Urge To Tell That One
Story About That One Time Your Ex And You
Did Something... Completely Unrelated To
Your First Date With A New Guy.
Discussing The Past So Early Into A Could-Be
Relationship Is Like Throwing Water On A
Flame That's Barely Starting To Fluster. While
It's Natural To Have Thought About Your Exes
From Time To Time While Dating (Everyone
Compares!), Opening Up That Floodgate Brings
Up A Guy's Insecurities, Jealousy, And Possibly
Encourages Him To Talk About Ex-Girlfriends
Too.
WHEN TO TALK ABOUT IT: A Few Months Down
The Line, When You've Made It Official
Already.
3¤ TALKING ABOUT THE FUTURE:
Okay, Okay, Okay, We've All Been On A Really
Killer First Date And Allowed Ourselves To
Retreat To Never-Never Land With Visions Of
White Lace And Blue-Eyed Babies. (And Fine,
Monograms Too.) But Here's The Thing:
Before You Put The Cart Way Ahead Of The
Horse, Take A Breathe And Savour The
Moment Of The First Date. If He Does Happen
To Be The Guy You'll Spend Forever-And-Ever
With, This Is Your Last First Date... Ever. So
Enjoy It! Hold Onto Those Moments Of
Awkwardness And Sweet Tension, And Don't
Bring Up Where He Sees Himself In A Few
Years. Or If He Wants Children. Or About His
Plans. The Discussion About What's Next Will
Eventually Come (It Has To) But For Now,
Focus On How Cute That Dimple Is On His Left
Cheek And How Your Heart Races When He
Brushes By Your Hand.
WHEN TO TALK ABOUT IT: About Six Or Seven
Dates In.
4¤ TALKING ABOUT FAMILIES:
You Might Talk About How Many Siblings You
Have In A Cute 'You're Such A Middle Child!'
Kind Of Way, But Bringing Up Heavy Family
Topics (Like Sickness Or Feuds) Is Too Personal
For The First Date. While It Might Not Seem
Like A Big Deal To You, Family Matters Are
Intimate Details That Shouldn't Be Shared
With Just Anyone. In Fact, You Should Earn A
Spot In Each Other's Lives Where Trust Is
Fostered Before You Bring Up Things That Are
Possibly Emotional.
Keep The First Date To Lighthearted Matters
And Save The Heavy Stuff For When You're
Falling In Love.
WHEN TO TALK ABOUT IT: After You're
Officially Dating.
What Topics Have Turned You Off On A First
Date?